Keep Your Sobriety First To Make It Last

When we first entered the program we burned with a fire of commitment. We just loved going to meetings. It was so liberating being able to share our deepest feelings openly with the group. Learning that we were not unique was also very helpful. Listening to others and identifying deeply was validating for us. Physically we could feel our health improving on a daily basis. As we immersed ourselves in the program we created an expanding social network of friends. Our relationship with our sponsor evolved into something that we tapped into on a daily basis.
Over time, much of that initial pink cloud began to wear off. As we reintegrated ourselves back into our lives, more and more distractions arose. Obligations of work and family began to seep in. Meetings began to be skipped. Calls to our sponsor went unmade. Hopefully at this point our sponsor had a heart to heart with us. Basically he or she told us that our sobriety had to come first. Experience of countless others who came before us had shown this to be true. When people said they had a daily reprieve, this was only because they had worked their program that day. If we didn’t keep our sobriety our priority, it would in short order be lost.

Personal Reflection: Do I keep my sobriety first?

Bring Your Body; The Mind Will Follow

There are so many reasons for not going to a meeting. For the newcomer, many of whom are still in a fog, much of what is being said doesn’t make much sense. They can’t understand why you are talking about your feelings. What does that have to do with drinking, drugs or food? And what are all these references to the twelve steps? For those that have been around for a while, there are also many reasons for not going to a meeting. By this time, seasoned members do “get” the program. However, they come up with “good reasons” for not making a meeting. Now that they have a job, don’t they deserve a break after a hard day at work? Others claim that they need to devote spending more time with their families, often from whom they were estranged in the past.

Whatever the reason, as addicts we need to make meetings. Failure to do so will invariably see an onset of alcoholic behavior. We don’t need to take a drink or a drug to act like we’ve had one. Whenever, we find a reason for not going to a meeting, we need to just point our feet in the right direction. Once there, we will realize that we are in the right place

Personal Reflection: How do I get myself to a meeting when I have an excuse for not going?