Never Put People in AA, NA, Or OA On A Pedestal

To be sure there are some amazing people in the program. Some came from extremely difficult family backgrounds and have now found a degree of serenity that is quite startling given where they came from. There are others who hit rock bottom and through the program reclaimed their lives. Some of these same people became successful professionals and businessmen and women. We can listen to their stories and identify with them. They are often powers of example and can serve as an inspiration for us. We often speak with them to receive their counsel.
With all that we must be careful not to idolize them. This is bad for them because it feeds their ego, and grandiosity is not something we want to encourage. We are also being excessively romantic about them. We have turned them into some Titan of program. The problem with this is that when we observe them being less than perfect; that disappoint could destroy our sobriety.
Rather, we need to honestly assess others; take them off the pedestal,and see them for who they are. Like us, they are people who struggle every day to work on themselves and make the world just a little bit better.

Personal Reflection: Is there someone I need to take off the pedestal

I Had To Lower The Bar To Be Happy

All of us of course need to fulfill some very basic needs in order to survive. Food clothing and shelter of course immediately come to mind. Beyond that we begin to get into the area of wants. Within that arena, one of the most common mentioned wants is the desire to be happy. Many an alcoholic, drug or food addict were part of this group of seekers of happiness. The problem was that happiness often eluded us. As a result, we often turned to our drug of choice to fill those feelings of emptiness and sadness. We soon learned that not only did happiness continue to escape us, but a whole new set of problems arose. We often tumbled into depression as our lives deteriorated.
In the rooms we quickly heard a different take on happiness. Someone at a meeting would invariably say to us; “You’re a winner today. You didn’t take a drink or a drug. Everything else is gravy”. As timed passed we began to see that we really did have “a lot of gravy” in our lives. We had a boatload of little reasons to be happy. As we readjusted our expectations, that smile on our faces ever widened.

Personal Reflection: Do I need to lower the bar?