Everybody Deserves Good Things In Life

It is indisputable that we acted irresponsibility while we were active. The destruction caused by us was often wide ranging. Relationships with family and friends were often negatively impacted. Personal property and the property of others was often damaged or destroyed. Laws were often disregarded with serious consequences.
When we finally entered the program, we began to fully understand the consequences of our drug of choice. We had varied reactions to this fact. Some of us fell into depression over the havoc we had wreaked. Others walked around in guilt, shame and embarrassment. There was a lot of anger directed towards ourselves.
Many of us felt that our lives would never be able to recover from our actions. We reacted by embarking on a path of personal penance. We even denied ourselves many of life’s simple pleasures with the hope we would finally achieve forgiveness through this path.
Over time we saw that this route did not represent true sobriety. One of the main benefits of sobriety was that we could live a well adjusted life. This is included the satisfaction of healthy relationships and the ability to enjoy and maintain personal property that gave us pleasure. Sobriety did not require us to live the life of a lonely aesthetic.

Personal Reflection: Do I treat myself with the kindness I deserve?

Is It True? Is It Kind? Is It Necessary?

We had prided ourselves on our gift of gab. This was especially true after we had had a few. The next day we couldn’t understand why people were upset or angry with us. The fact is we couldn’t quite remember what we had said. It must have been brilliant though, given our ability to wax poetic on all things. They must be sensitive sorts we mused to ourselves; and started the next conversation with whoever was near us.
In sobriety our sponsor really let us have it. At first he told us if we had a thought we should keep it to ourselves. Then he relented and told us we could resume conversations with people, but with three provisos. First, we could only speak the truth. No more of that grandiosity or arrogance of ours that often leaked through. Then he told us that before we told anyone anything we needed to check if it would hurt them in any way. If so, we were to keep our mouths shut. Finally, after passing those first two hurdles, we needed to examine if what was being said was really necessary. Following these guidelines we discovered that we had a lot less to say to people. On the positive side, when we did speak to people they no longer were angry or upset with us. In fact sometimes, they wanted to hear more.

Personal Reflection: Do I need to monitor my words more carefully?