Push Pause

What we would do without the pause button? How would we be able to get a snack before we continued our favorite show. Or, for that matter not have to delay going to the bathroom because the murderer in the mystery we were watching was about to be revealed. So, at this point in our lives, we are quite familiar with the pause button on our television remote.
There is another type of pause which many of us neglect or don’t even know about. That is our internal pause button. Here’s how you use use it. The next time you are about to lose your temper press your internal pause button. If you are about to pass on a juicy piece of gossip; hit pause. Are you about to make a rash decision without thinking it through? Hit that button. Do you see yourself about to beat yourself up for a decision you made? Just hit it. You need to hit pause when you see yourself beginning to obsess about a future decision. Resentments can be put on pause as well. Perhaps most importantly if you see yourself wanting to drink or drug or eat hit that pause button. In the majority of cases we have nothing to lose by pausing, and often quite a lot to gain.

Personal Reflection: Do I need to hit my pause button more often?

Nothing Is As Busy As An Idle Rumor

The story is told about a man who lived in Europe at the turn of the last century. He constantly engaged in gossip. One day, feeling some remorse, he went to the town sage and asked how could he repent for all his hours of gossip. He was told to go home and bring back one of his goose feather pillows. Upon returning with the pillow, he was instructed to rip it open, and throw all of the feathers into the air. The gossiper complied with all of these instructions. As he threw the feathers into the air, the wind quickly carried them away. Once the pillow was empty, the sage advised him to go and gather up all the feathers. The poor fellow soon discovered that the feathers had blown all over the town. He spent the entire day looking for feathers and only found a few of them. In the evening he returned to the sage who said, “gossip is like the goose feathers. Once the words are released into the air, it is almost impossible to take them back”.
Once we gossip about someone, the damage has already been done. The best amends we can make for gossiping is to resolve not to listen to or speak it in the future.

Personal Reflection: Do I need to be more diligent about gossip?