There was a time that we had many dreams. As we imbibed on our drug of choice, we waxed poetic on all of the things we were going to do, all of the places we were going visit, and all of the things were were going to acquire. Our hopes and dreams were never dashed, because we never even made the effort to take the first step towards their actualization. In a perverse sort of way, this behavior insured that our dreams would forever remain just that, dreams. Everything stayed in a state of potentiality.
In sobriety, we also have dreams. The difference is that we take actions to begin in their fulfillment. Sometimes we have the pleasure of having a dream come true. We save up for that special vacation or finally ask out that co-worker. It feels wonderful knowing that we made the effort to turn our dream into reality. Sometimes though, we take the steps to fulfill a dream, and it evaporates right before our eyes. Had that happened while we were drinking or drugging, we probably would have gone into a tailspin. Now, we know better. If a dream falls through, just create another one.
Personal Reflection: How do I cope with broken dreams?
According to scientists all of us dream at night. There are varied opinions as to why we dream. Freudians argue that the purpose of dreams is to preserve sleep while more modern theorists say that we use dreams to problem solve challenges from our waking hours. There is another category which we can call life purpose dreams. Many of us in program believe that we were sent into this world with a particular purpose. Since no two people are identical, no two people have the same life purpose dream. We believe that our Higher Power has blessed us with certain attributes and talents which can help define our reason for being here. While we were actively using, we were disconnected from how to pursue our dreams. In sobriety, upon taking stock of our strengths as well as our shortcomings, we are ready to make our dreams a reality. Unfortunately, we sometimes encounter people who for whatever reason have abandoned their own life purpose dreams. They will then do everything in their power to discourage and squash ours because they’ve given up on the possibilities of their dreams. Just smile, say “thanks for the advice”, and then full throttle ahead.
Personal Reflection: Are you actively pursuing your life purpose dream?