Don’t Point A Finger, Point The Whole Hand

Isn’t it interesting that body language often transcends geographic, ethnic or religious lines. Although we may be separated by language, we can often understand one another through body language. Of course the simplest examples of this are a smile or a nod of affirmation or a nod of negation. Beyond these there are many non verbal clues which are clearly understood across cultures. You could be walking almost any where in the world and see one person emphatically pointing and wagging his finger at another person. Even if you didn’t understand the language or hear the conversation, you would probably be correct in assuming that this finger pointing was related to one person blaming another. Almost all of us are familiar with this non verbal clue. Perhaps this is the case because blaming others is such a universal trait.
As members of 12 step programs we are quite familiar with blaming others for our own shortcomings. By committing to the precepts and tools of the program our tendency to blame others when we our responsible begins to diminish. However, we advocate replacing that “blaming finger” with an outstretched hand; which is also a universal non verbal clue. When we extend our hand, we are being open and extending ourselves in fellowship.

Personal Reflection: How can I transform blame to fellowship?

Share Your Happiness

It has been said that a picture is worth a thousand words. It can be very instructive for us to review photographs of ourselves taken when were unaware that a photo was being taken. Carefully examine your facial expression and body language. Attempt to view yourself impartially. What messages are you sending out to the world in that moment? Do you appear to be stressed out, fearful, tense, upset, judgmental, or bored? Or as they say in the language of the program, do you appear to be, happy, joyous and free? There are really two points of import to be examined here. The first is what is your inner world like? Have you taken all the tools of the program and utilized them to create a happier healthier you? If this is not the case, perhaps you need to revisit what you are doing on a daily basis to create greater emotional sobriety.
Let’s assume however that you have been evolving. Then what’s up with that photograph of you? Isn’t it time that you share some of your inner joy, serenity and positivity. Let your outside reflect your inside. You might want to make more eye contact, increase your smile quotient and up your good mornings. Not only will it brighten someone else’s day, it will make a brighter you!

Personal Reflection: Who do I see in those photographs?