Ask the average person to make a list of what’s wrong with their life. They would have little difficulty coming up with a litany of complaints. In short order they would hand you an extensive list. Complaints would include issues with the family, the job, friends, and associates.
Now ask the same person to come up with a list of what’s good in their life. Generally, they would have much more difficulty coming up with the blessings they possess. You would also find that the list of blessings would be much shorter than that of the problems.
Listening to some people you would think that they never had a bright moment in their day. Even the thoughts they keep to themselves are often found to be of a negative nature.
Part of recovery is becoming more aware of our negativity. One suggestion is that every time we have a negative thought, we supplant it with a positive one. Initially this might occur dozens of times. With practice the frequency of our negativity will diminish and be replaced with a sense of blessing.
Personal Reflection: What blessings have I forgotten to acknowledge today?
When it comes to all of the blessings we have, our minds are like a sieve. I mean really, how anyone can walk around bemoaning their fate is really quite puzzling. Each of us has so much to be thankful for. Yes, there are people that are facing a lot of adversity. That being said, they too have a bounty of blessings. The fact that we can breathe without having to think about it or walk without having to balance ourselves surely are gifts. If only we were able to have all of these gifts front and center in our minds; how much brighter each day would would be.
Paradoxically, when it comes to our troubles; are minds are more like a sponge. It is so easy for us to soak up negative energy and then hold onto to it for dear life. Some of us walk around with a troubling event long after it has past. So here is a modest proposal. Let’s attempt to reverse our brain patterns. Let’s remember our blessings like we remember our troubles; and forget our troubles like we forget our blessings. That my friends,is called recovery.
Personal Reflection: Am I able to forget my troubles and remember my blessings?
A number of years ago at a meeting a women was qualifying. She concluded her share by saying, “I’m either counting my blessin’s or counting my lessons”. This simple statement profoundly taps into how to live in this world. When we are “counting our blessin’s”, we are opening ourselves up to gratitude. People often walk around with a scowl on their face. They will point to problems with spouses, children, work and finances and say, “when I find a blessing I will let you know”. Were they to pause a moment, they could enumerate countless blessings including sight, hearing, mobility, freedom of choice and all the good they have in their lives.
Of course, there will be times of difficulty where things don’t go our way. At this point we need to see these roadblocks as “lessons”‘. Part of our life purpose is to figure out what insights we can gain from life’s challenges. When we do so, perhaps we won’t fall into old patterns and instead will respond in more appropriate ways. We also find that as we recognize and seek out blessings within life’s challenges, more of them become discoverable. Go figure!
Personal Refection: How have some of your lessons turned out to be blessin’s?