The Day Ain’t Over Yet

There is a classic scene from a Woody Allen movie. In it Woody and his date are rapidly approaching a movie marquis. Woody abruptly stops and says, “it’s too late, the movie has already started”. His date says, “we’re only 5 minutes late”, and “didn’t you tell me that that you’ve seen this movie multiple times before?” To which Allen replies, “once the movie starts, it’s ruined for me”.

Many of us followed this line of thinking. If something negative occurred during our day, the rest of the day was ruined. If someone had offended us, we would walk around in righteous indignation about what had occurred. If we had made a mistake we walked around in judgement of ourselves for the rest of the day. Either way, the rest of the day was lost to us. Then one day we called our sponsor about what a miserable day we were having; to which he or she responded, “the day ain’t over yet”. Then it hit us. We had a choice over how we would inhabit the rest of the day. We could draw out every moment from it and make it count, or be in negativity.

Personal Reflection: Did you end the day for yourself already?

We Are Not Bad People Becoming Good, But Sick People Becoming Well

Proper speech is not just about correct syntax or tense. The words we use have a lot of power. Researchers have found that when we use certain words and expressions over and over again they create neural pathways in our brains. These pathways become our new reality. Far too many of us are still walking around with a vocabulary that no longer serves our purpose. All too often you will hear someone in the rooms say, “when I was out there drinking and drugging I was a terrible person”, or “a loser”, or “a dope” etc..

When someone has a disease, we don’t call them a bad person. We say that they are sick. When they are healed we don’t say that now they are good. Rather we claim that they are well. The same standard needs to be applied to addictive behavior. The addict is not “bad”. He or she is merely “sick”. When we begin to experience recovery, we are becoming “well”. When we begin to view ourselves as having been sick, we can begin to drop the judgements we had against ourselves. This will aid in our recovery.

Personal Reflection: How careful am I in describing my past behavior?