Tomorrow Is Not Promised

Pushing off till another day had become a mantra for many of us. We were true procrastinators. Why should we do it today when we could always do it tomorrow or next week, month or year. We stayed in jobs we hated and told ourselves we would look for another one some other time. Unhealthy relationships were prolonged because we weren’t quite ready to pull the plug. Perhaps what we procrastinated most about was changing our addictive use of alcohol, drugs, food or other substances. We promised to put it down after the holidays, next month, in the spring or however far we could push it back. As a result we remained stuck for years and often decades.
Entering the program, one of the first slogans we encountered was “one day at a time.” We learned to keep the focus on the 24 hours ahead. We had absolutely no power over the future. Our efforts were best concentrated on the present. Given that this was the case, we decided to live our lives as fully as possible each day. We focused on making every day, hour and minute count. When our heads hit the pillow at night we were able to examine how fully we had lived our day. Even though tomorrow was not guaranteed, we resolved to live the next day as consciously as possible.

Personal Reflection: How can I make today count?

Growing Old Is Mandatory; Growing Up Is Optional

Most of look in the mirror at least once a day. Because we do so, we are not really aware of the subtle changes of aging. Perhaps we notice that we are getting grey or that we are putting on a little weight around the middle. Other than that we probably don’t see any recognizable difference as compared to how we looked 10 or 20 years ago. That is until we find an old photograph of ourselves and see how much we have aged. Growing old is one of the basic inevitabilities of life.
While we were drinking and drugging many of us attempted to escape the reality of adulthood. We might have looked like adults, but our actions belied that fact. We often shrugged off any type of personal responsibility for our actions. If we felt like staying out all night and leaving our family alone we did so. If we didn’t like how our boss spoke to us, we quit, regardless of how that would affect other people in our lives.
It was only when we entered the program that we began to grow up. For perhaps the first time in many years we got honest and admitted to ourselves and others just how childlike and self centered our actions had been. Only then did our emotional age begin to catch up to our chronological one.

Personal Reflection: In what aspect my life do I still need to grow up?