None of us was born a liar. As we were growing up it just began to manifest. For many of us it grew out of a fear that we weren’t enough. To compensate for this, we decided to embellish a fact about ourselves or an event. It seemed that others were more impressed by our embellishments than by the truth. It appeared to us that the key to people liking us more and validating us was through the path of exaggeration. It probably wasn’t even a conscious decision. Once we began to lie, it seemed to take on a life of its own. We needed to create lies on top of lies to substantiate our previous falsehoods. After a while it became second habit for us to lie. It just made our lives so much more interesting.
When we introduced our drug of choice into the picture, our lying really took off. We needed to somehow justify all of the problems we were causing because of our alcohol and drug use. By the end of our addiction journey we actually had convinced ourselves that everything we said was the absolute truth; even in the face of incontrovertible evidence to the contrary.
In sobriety, with a lot of work, we have learned to be honest in all of our dealings. We are fine just the way we are and have become much more comfortable with telling the truth.
Personal Reflection: Do I still tend to exaggerate?