All of us make mistakes. It’s a part of life. Of course we initially get upset, but hopefully after a few days we get over it. For many people that is actually what happens. Then there are the rest of us. Something happens and we too get upset. The only thing is that we don’t let go of that upset. In fact over the next few days, weeks, months and sometimes years we continue to carry those feelings around. Some people turn it into rage and resentment, some into shame and some into guilt. Each of those feelings can have a very long shelf life. The problem with carrying them around is that they can actually intensify over time. What might have essentially been a triviality turns into a major issue in our minds. When this happens it can cloud our decision making abilities. Everything becomes tainted because we are holding onto a greatly inflated set of feelings.
To escape from these long carried sentiments many of us turned to alcohol, drugs or food. We then felt guilt and shame about having turned to our drug of choice as well. It was only when we put down drugs and alcohol that we could begin to address our long held feelings. We began to learn to be more in the moment and leave guilt, shame, resentment, and rage in the past where they belonged.
Personal Reflection: Is there something I need to let go of?