Prior to entering the program, lying was a problem for many of us. We would lie to ourselves constantly. Not being able to admit to that we were addicted to drugs, or alcohol or food fueled our lying. We would tell ourselves, “I don’t drink or drug or binge on food that often”. After a while, on some level we began to believe the lies we told ourselves. Our lying to others was an outgrowth of our self deception. We actually began to believe the lies we told to others about our substance usage. We also knowingly lied to avoid the disapproval of others or the repercussions of our actions. At some point, we knew that we were deluding ourselves and others. It became more and more difficult to maintain the level of continuity which only exists when we are speaking the truth.
In sobriety, we learned that the program placed a very high premium on the truth. We discovered that it required less effort to tell the truth than to lie. Yes, sometimes it was initially difficult to open up and share honestly. Once we took a chance and spoke the truth, everything got a lot easier. We didn’t have to waste our time trying to remember what our last lie was. Somehow, the truth was easily remembered days weeks and months after an initial conversation.
Personal Reflection: How do I know if I’m lying to myself or others?