Anyone looking for perfect solutions to all of their problems is going to be disappointed by 12 steppers. None of us is perfect. To varying degrees we are working on ourselves. What we have found is that our collective wisdom is quite amazing. The only thing is that it is not deposited within one place or within one person. This is often a disappointment to both the newcomer and even to those with time. Yes, it is difficult to see old timers, sponsors and fellowship friends saying and doing things that are less than sterling.
What is of greater importance is that those same old timers, sponsors and fellowship friends can often be of great help to us. We just need to lower our expectations a bit. Almost everyone from program has something of benefit to offer. Our task is to separate the wheat from the chaff. As we sift through the words and actions of others, our own program can be greatly strengthened. Given our own perfectionism, this is sometimes a challenge. We can smile at the fact that someone else in program is probably applying the rule of “take the best and leave the rest” to us right now.
Personal Reflection: Am I able to separate the wheat from the chaff?