From the outside looking in, program members at times appear to be very harsh. They might say something to a newcomer like, “you can have your misery back any time you want”. At first blush you might think that members should be soft and gentle and understanding with fellow addicts. The reality is that 12 step program is designed for people who really want to recover. We have found that trying to convince a person to stay sober ultimately doesn’t work. Sobriety is something that the addict or alcoholic really needs to want for themselves. It needs to emanate from a very deep place, where they are able to “admit that they are powerless over their substance of choice and that their lives have become unmanageable”. Once they are able to make that kind of admission, then the fellowship will be there for them 100%. Whether they need a ride to a meeting or need to vent over the phone to another member, someone will make themselves available. We can’t rescue you, but we will do all in our power to support your recovery.
Personal Reflection: Can I do more to support other’s recovery?